How to Write and Say Affirmations

Writing/Altering Affirmations

Achieving your ultimate goals and making the changes needed depend greatly on your affirmations. It’s important that the affirmations are relevant to your goals and support you in achieving and maintaining your success. As you know, your affirmations should be personalized to you and your goals. Here are a few tips to help you write or alter affirmations specifically for your needs and preferences.

  • Begin your affirmations with “I” or “My.” Using this format puts you, the person talking, in charge of what is being said and it helps hold you accountable for following through.

  • Write your affirmations in the present tense using words like am, is, are, etc. Avoid using future and past tense words.

  • Don’t begin your affirmations with “I want” or “I need.”

  • Make sure you use positive statements that relate to an aspect of achieving your goal.

  • Add power to your affirmations by including positive feelings/emotions such as, “I am excited about meeting interesting people at the conference.”

  • Create affirmations that you believe are true and do-able. If you don’t believe a statement, alter it slightly to include a factor that makes it work for you.

  • As you write or alter affirmations, use words and phrases that inspire, motivate, and empower you on a personal level.

Note: While most people have better success using the “I/My” affirmation format, some people feel that the affirmations don’t work for them and they give up. Affirmations are definitely not a “one size fits all” solution. Please don’t give up. You may simply need to make an adjustment here or there, such as using a different statement format for a while.

Instead of using “I” or “My,” phrase your affirmation so it sounds and feels as if a friend or loved one is saying it about you (3rd person.) This can be very helpful since we tend to believe what others say about us more readily than what we say about ourselves.

If the original affirmation is, “I am beautiful.” The new 3rd person format might be written as, “Jenny Lynn (use your name) appreciates the classic beauty of her body.” Another alternative might be, “I like Jenny Lynn’s classic features.”

This type of format can help differentiate your “old” patterns from your “new” thoughts and beliefs. In addition, it can help you see things from a different perspective. If you’re in the process of dealing with something painful or traumatic, it can help you accept or acknowledge something, while distancing yourself a little from the related negative emotions and/or memories.

Give the affirmations another try. If the 3rd person format helps you, keep using it but include “I/My” affirmations when possible. In other words, work your way up to using the original format; but be gentle with yourself and your needs, as you make progress.

Another affirmation alteration you may want to try, if you’re having trouble, is writing and saying the affirmation as a question, instead of a statement. So, “I am healthy,” might be rephrased as, “Why am I healthy,” or “Why am I getting healthier each day?”

These types of questions give your brain food-for-thought during the day and even while you sleep. Your brain is continually trying to answer questions, solve problems, and make sense of the day’s events. Give your brain something positive to work on. This leaves less room and time for the negatives to sneak in.

While the affirmations themselves are very important, you need to use them effectively to get the most benefits. Let’s look at how to do that now.

Using Affirmations Effectively

One of the top questions people ask is, “How often should I say my affirmations?” The answer varies. The short answer is you should say affirmations at least 3 times a day and as much as you need. Just as you customize affirmation phrasing to meet your needs, customize the frequency and timing, as well.

Another question people ask is, “How quickly will I see results?” This probably isn’t what you want to hear but, realistically, the time frame is different for each person and depends on multiple factors, which are specific to you.

For many people, the emphasis is on the “quick” part. It took a long time for your thought patterns and habits to develop to their current state. If you’re most interested in how fast you can change something, you might need to begin by changing your mindset and priorities.

Focus on making steady progress toward your goal, first and foremost. This is not about how fast you get there, but how long you stay, once you reach your destination. Perseverance and staying power help you achieve and maintain the changes over the long-term. Developing these qualities as you make progress is important to your overall success and happiness.

With that in mind, implementing a few creative techniques, activities, and ideas can add an element of fun, making the entire experience more beneficial. Let’s look at how to use affirmations effectively and have fun as you make breakthrough after breakthrough.

Powerful Practices for Rewarding Results

Sometimes, reaching your goals and making changes stick can be difficult. Using positive affirmations as part of your strategy can play a big part in your success. However, positive affirmations are not a stand-alone solution. Saying or thinking positive words only get you so far.

Consider the person who wants to lose weight. That person might use the positive affirmation, “I am losing weight.” Affirmations are not magic words that make things happen. While there is power in words, the real power is within you – in your thoughts, words, and your actions. It takes all three of these things to reach your realistic goals.

For example, the person who wants to lose weight must do things in addition to saying, “I am losing weight,” such as changing their eating and exercise habits. Achieving your goal requires that you take actions to change, as well as reminding yourself that you can and are making changes. This is where using your positive affirmations effectively comes into play.

You know that you can write your positive affirmations down and use them in your self-talk. But, let’s face it. This can get a little boring after a while and you may find that you aren’t as excited as you once were. To help you stay motivated, interested, positive, and on course, here are a few fun and creative ways to slip affirmations into your daily routines to get an extra dose of inspiration, motivation, determination, etc.

Use as many perceptual learning styles and senses as possible to reinforce your affirmations. Enhancing and varying the ways you use your affirmations, beyond the basics, can add an enormous amount of enjoyment, renewed determination, and a feeling of accomplishment to your experience.

Here are a few ways you can incorporate fun and beneficial activities with your positive affirmations. These are sorted by the learning style or related senses.


Integrate Print (Reading and Writing) with Affirmations

1. Write your affirmations in an app, which sends you a “reminder.”

2. Read a book about the topic of the current affirmation.

3. Write about your affirmation in a journal.

4. Read comedic content related to your affirmation or goal.


Combine Aural (Listening) with Affirmations

1. Have a trusted friend record your 3rd-person affirmations (using your name instead of the “I/My” format.) Listen to this recording when you have self-doubt or need “evidence” that the affirmation is true.

2. Listen to your favorite speaker talk about the topic of your affirmation.

3. Create a song playlist that supports or has a similar message to your affirmations.


Connect Haptic (Touch) with Affirmations

1. Associate a texture/textile with each affirmation. Ex. Security – blanket/yarn

2. Draw or sketch how you envision your affirmation looks. Include yourself in the picture, when appropriate.

3. Put together puzzles that inspire you or remind you of your affirmation/goal.


Couple Verbalization (Talking) with Affirmations

1. Sing your affirmation to a familiar tune, such as “Row, Row, Row Your Boat.”

2. Turn affirmations into a cadence chant or song (military marching song)


Tie in Kinesthetic (Body Movement) with Affirmations

1. Use the cadence chant created from your affirmation/goal when riding a bike, walking, jogging, or exercising.

2. Take a walk and look for things that remind you of your affirmation. Write down examples of what you saw and why each reminded you of your affirmation.


Associate Olfactory (Smell or Taste) with Affirmations

1. Make a list of scents or tastes you associate with the related emotion or result in your affirmation/goal. Ex. Lavender – relaxing, Lemon – rejuvenating

2. Incorporate aromatherapy into your day to help you achieve the mindset/emotion associated with your affirmation or goal.


Relate Visuals (Images, Video, Graphs) with Affirmations

1. Create a “vision board” that include images or other visual items to help you “see” or envision your affirmation or your goal.

2. Find or create a visual that represents or depicts your affirmation or related goal.

3. Create a collection of affirmation or goal related images that inspire you. Tag them with the emotions or feelings you experience when you look at them.

4. Take photos of scenes and events that inspire and motivate you.

(Check out our post on how to create a vision board at http://positivitytrail.com/how-to-create-a-proper-vision-board/)

These are just a few of the many ways that you can make your affirmations more effective, interesting, and fun. As you incorporate your affirmations into more areas of your daily life, you’ll find that additional activity ideas just seem to come to you. So, make sure you have a place to make notes about this and related info. Using a journal would be a great way to keep your information organized.


Your dreams for a better, more successful, and happier life are important. They are within your grasp, when you use positive affirmations, your power tool for achieving goals. Using positive affirmations effectively, can turn each dream into a reality and even transform your life. Don’t give up on yourself or your dream. Use the info and suggestions shared here to get the ball rolling and keep it in play for the long-term. 

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